AN OOC NOTE (Help Appriciated...)

[bw_waspy]

((Ok, I've been asked 'where's Waspy, we miss him' enough that I feel it's about time I put a note here...

There's a problem. Due to OOC circumstances with another player that are beyond my control, Waspinator as he currently is cannot be played. This is due to my being unable to find a way out of or around the seriousness of fere/swordbonding in TF culture as portrayed in previous RPs.

I'd like suggestions on how to fix this so I can continue playing with Waspy... Right now, the only solutions I see are:

1. Scratch/Retcon everything... and I mean EVERYTHING I've done with Waspy, as he met Forte fairly early on in his time on Sages. This, I don't really want to do, as there have been some times when he was crucial to other RPs (for example, getting that tracking device out of Quint...)

2. Try to untangle it and just say "Waspy Never Met Forte, but Everything Else Happened" and attempt to sort out which events would not have occured. This could be tricky as heck, not just for me but for everyone with a chara that has interacted with Waspy... which is why I'd love some feedback on this mess

3. Drop Waspy as a chara. This I do NOT want to do, especially with the feeling that the situation with Waspy is an attempt to railroad/blackmail me into dropping another chara (long story) :P

Anyone have any other suggestions? The only fic I can think of that involved breaking a fere relation was something I read once that implied heavily it would lead to a bitter feud over the 'betrayal'... and that's not an option either.))

Comments

OOC

[forte-alone.livejournal.com]

I do not care if you play that other character or not. I have no interest in making you drop him (or any of your other characters). I brought to your attention the fact that I wasn't enjoying certain aspects of our RPs. I'm hurt and frustrated that I'm not even allowed to express my feelings to you without you taking it as a personal attack.

No, you can't control how I react to things. That wasn't why I brought this up. I brought this up because my reactions were affecting how I interacted with you and you deserved to know why. Would you rather I have continued to grow more and more distant, never telling you or hinting to you that I was having problems?

That aside, if you want my advice for how to get Waspinator back, I say use Waspy's glitches to your advantage. You could do a subplot where Waspy returns to his normal form, but in the process loses several important memories. Should we ever resolve our OOC problems, it wouldn't be hard to arrange for him to regain those memories. Forte being the way he is, and since none of this means quite as much to him as it does to a Transformer, will probably flake about it and get wrapped up in other things.

I'm sorry about this whole mess. I really am.

Re: OOC

[bw_waspy]

We can both wish 'tone of voice' came across better in text till the cows come home, but while it was perhaps not your intention, your message still came across to me as, in a nutshell, "I hate Quint and I'm taking it out on Waspy."

Perhaps it only read that way to me because of the rest of the problems I've had from people over Quint, including having to block someone I know you are friends with from posting on my LJs in order to avoid flames. At this point I don't know.

I'm not taking it as a personal attack on me.... mostly because I consider the stuff from certain other people to be too irrelevant to my life to bother taking notice of. If anything else, I take that whole mess as an annoyance, rather like the large amount of houseflies we've gotten off the backwater this summer.

It does, however, come across as an 'attack' on Waspy, for no other reason than because I play him.

Quite frankly, I'm annoyed as heck at the whole mess... not because I'm 'taking it personally', but because it means a LOT of probable work and inconveniance for me and for anyone else who has interacted with Waspinator... and excuse me if, given the amount of trouble, I feel I have a right to be upset.

Re: OOC

[forte-alone.livejournal.com]

You think you're the only one who's sick of this? No, wait, I can guess your answer already. You'll tell me that, no, you don't think any such thing.

Well, you're certainly not giving me that impression.

You know what I'M sick of? I'm sick of tiptoeing around the feelings of you and everyone else involved in this whole damn mess! I'm sick of having to keep a lid on everything that bothers me because I'm afraid that it'll cause OOC problems. I'm sick of people assuming my intentions and motivations are something entirely different from what they are, then refuse to me when I tell them otherwise. I'm sick of playing peace-keeper. I'm sick of dealing with the wangst - and I'm not just referring to you or your characters.

Waspinator could be played by a total stranger and I would still have these issues with him. THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU. How many times do I have to say that? Besides, if I truly hated you OR Waspinator, I WOULD NOT BE TRYING TO HELP YOU GET HIM BACK INTO A PLAYABLE MODE! Or did you conveniently skip over the part where I gave you an honest, hopefully-decent suggestion for how to fix him?

I've gone out of my way to handle this as civilly as possible, but all I feel like I'm getting in return is a slap in the face. I've offered my suggestion for how to get Waspinator back. Do with it what you will. For now, though, I think we need to cut contact, because I don't think I can remain civil with you much longer if our correspondence continues along this pattern.

I still am sorry that this all degenerated so badly. Here's to hoping you can find enjoyment RPing without me.